I’m sending warmth from Costa Rica!
Welcome to my garden of curiosities in digital form. A few times a month, I’ll be sharing my harvest: research, insights, and stories with the aim of empowering your growth. Watch the video below to learn what I’ve been up to.
What I’m curious about…
“If cities were people, who would be your fling, bf/gf, and lifelong partner?”
If you know me, you know I love asking curious questions. Over dinner I posed this one to my friends, Esther Perel. She then shared it on her social media posts and it’s been a delight to read the internet’s responses! What are your cities? Keen to hear them—tag #vikatalks in your answers.
Idea: Post this question in your WhatsApp group or ask it on a first (or hundredth) date!
What I’m creating…
An Interactive Digital Course for Men
After hundreds of hours talking to men in my dinner salons, in everyday life, and in private coaching sessions, I’ve observed universal needs and themes emerge. In my experience, teaching men relational health and emotional navigation is generation-shifting work.
The “Brave New Men: Cultivating Relational Health & Emotional Navigation” interactive course will guide eight men towards self-awareness, self-expression, and self-liberation. Stay tuned for full details in the next newsletter.
What I’m studying...
If you don’t know Resmaa Menakem consider running to read his New York Times bestselling book, “My Grandmother’s Hands: Racialized Trauma and the Pathway to Mending Our Hearts and Bodies.”
He’s a force of nature. The author, healer, and psychologist taught an eight-hour workshop as part of my Therapeutic Practices: Intersectionality & Equity certification at CIIS last weekend that left me undone.
What I’m exploring…
As I re-enter the dating world from Costa Rica back to LA, I want to do things differently. Pondering: What’s beyond fleeting collisions of the flesh? How do I express my needs and desires with a partner that invites deeper connection?
Studying conscious intimacy is changing my perception of what’s possible as much as it’s revealing what’s been missing. Curious? Here you go!
Surrounded by nature in Costa Rica, I’ve been contemplating my mission in the world. I’d like to share this with you:
I believe in the power of storytelling to change our lives. I believe in the intersection of narrative, human connection, and curiosity. I believe that finding meaning and magic in the mundane, leads to an unforgettable life. I believe in alleviating suffering by cultivating self-awareness, self-understanding, and self-expression. I believe re-evaluating masculinity is a matter of life and death. I believe life is about being in service to something greater than ourselves.
In a world that often tells us to be the master of one discipline, I revel in being an explorer of many. Cross pollination of my studies has led me to a richer understanding of our interconnectedness; everything feeds into an ecosystem of self and collective. My lens is shaped by an alternative curriculum and field work.
For years, I’ve been fascinated by how archaic notions of masculinity continue to seep into our world. In speaking to hundreds of men, I’ve witnessed the web of how familial, cultural, and societal conditioning shapes what it means to be a man. It’s a deeply nuanced conversation, one that is critical to have and concerningly lacking.
My men’s work is committed to teaching regenerative masculinity that liberates the individual and promotes growth for the collective. In my experience, teaching men relational strength training is generation shifting work.
As a multidisciplinary storyteller, facilitator, and teacher, I seek to catalyze change through storytelling and with a curiosity-first approach. Thematically, my work explores new forms of masculinity, relational health, and communication.
Above all, people come to me with their pain, shame, desire and dreams; together we sit in the cave of the mind and explore the unknown safely.
Leaving you with a poem I’m savoring by the great Gwendolyn Brooks about singer and activist Paul Robeson; the last six lines hit deep.
Next time, buckle up: we’re exploring flow state with the maestro that is Steven Kotler in episode 2 of VIKA TALKS. Plus, my top insights from exploring new narratives around masculinity. And a petit surprise…
SAVING THE BEST FOR LAST…
What I’m supporting with my lunch money is … stopping femicide in Mexico. One of my childhood best friends is the Director of LatAm for ESD Global Self Defense. Wanna join along? Let’s support together!
with courage & curiosity